That's what the saying is right? New year, new me?
Is it really true? Are we really flourishing into a brand new people. Probably not. Can we? I mean, I think it could be possible.
Maybe... no not really. I'm not trying to be a negative sally though so just hold on a second.
It's definitely not as easy as it seems, to change completely. We are all stuck in our ways, ways that might not be the ones that are making us as happy as we wish they would.
So instead of deciding on a, 'New Year New Me' kind of situation, I wanted to make a 'New Year, Better me'
That one, is definitely possible.
I feel most of us fail to accomplish what we set out to be our resolutions because we tend to overwhelm ourselves with changing into this new person. I don't think this is something that is needed. I don't even think it is something positive.
No matter what, we are all beautiful people. Things that are occurring on the outside world might just not be making us happy.
Whether its the guy not making us happy; our body isn't how we want it to be; whether or not we want to keep doing this or that... you get the point.
That got me thinking if it is our behaviors that lead to those outside events. After all, our word is shaped by how we perceive things and how we react to those thoughts.
The resolutions we tend to set are sometimes things that we already know are not going to be accomplished the second we write them down, or make a mental note of them though and punish ourselves when we "fail."
A quick example in my own life was that I wanted to go to the gym a few times a week and so on. But, I knew life was going to get in the way sometimes and other times, I might just not want to.
"Be more active" is what replaced it.
Some of you might not agree with my easier on thy self perspective, but I know for some, it might do well. Especially if, like me, you are recovering from an addiction.
Setting goals that are actually within your grasp and those that you will not hate yourself for setting in the first place, will be much more rewarding. It is then after your reach some of those goals that you can continue to work up to what you eventually want to accomplish.
What I am trying to get to really, is make 2016 a year that you are nicer to yourself. Be more compassionate, and don't be too hard on yourself.
Those are some of the most destructive patterns of thinking when it comes to happiness and your own self-perception.
I know for myself, it is what made 2015 a particular difficult year, when I don't think it really had to be.